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Permissive ParentingĀ StyleĀ
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Permissive parents are warm and affectionate, but offer little structure or discipline. Often trying to be a friend rather than a parent, they avoid setting clear limits and rarely follow through with consequences. Their leniency may feel loving, but it leaves children without the guidance and boundaries they need to feel secure.Ā Rules, if present at all, are inconsistently applied and easily negotiated by the child.
LOVING AND LENIENT
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The Permissive Mother archetype isĀ a caregiver who habitually yields to her childās impulses, dissolves boundaries, and turns every ānoā into an easy āyes.ā Although warm and present on the surface,Ā yet she does not provide the firm structure children need to internalize self-discipline and realistic limits. This archetype is therefore not enlightened compassion but a rajasic distortion of true acceptance. Her agreeablenessĀ arises less from wisdomĀ and moreĀ from insecurity, guilt, or conflict-avoidance. In over-permitting, the AnujÄtrÄ« mothering type leaves the child unanchoredāadrift between craving and confusion rather than maturing within a clear, loving framework.
SVARTHI - AVOIDANT
TheĀ ResultĀ of Permissive Parenting Style
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The essenceĀ the adult formed throughĀ permissive parenting is calledĀ SvarthÄ«, meaning oneĀ who is self-centered, avoidant of emotional intimacy.
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SANSKRIT MEANINGĀ
SvarthÄ« (ą¤øą„ą¤µą¤¾ą¤°ą„ą¤„ą„) ā meaning self-serving or self-interested. Derived from sva (ą¤øą„ą¤µ), meaning āself,ā and artha (ą¤ ą¤°ą„ą¤„), meaning āaim,ā āgain,ā or āinterest.ā In this context, it refers to oneĀ who is primarily concerned with their own gain or benefit.
SvarthÄ« describes an ego shaped in an environment where indulgence was mistaken for love and boundaries were absent or inconsistent. This type of self is subtly conditioned in childhood to believe that their desires define reality, and that the world should bend to meet their needs. When permissive parent gives affection without structure or accountability, the developing ego inflatesācentered on personal gratification, yet emotionally unanchored. The result is a persona that appears confident but often lacks true empathy, mistaking attention for connection and control for careāblind to the impact of their self-centeredness and unaware of how deeply their behavior wounds others.
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