Permissive Parenting Style

Meet Anujatri, a Permissive Mother

In classical Sanskrit texts, the term Anujñātrī (अनुज्ञात्री) is the feminine agentive form of anujñā—“permission” or “consent.” It literally means “she who gives leave” and evokes a benevolent authority who readily grants approval, pardons faults, and opens doors—a sattvic gesture of expansive goodwill.  

However, in the system of Vedic Psychology as applied here, Anujātrī is used symbolically to portray the Permissive Mother archetype—a caregiver who habitually yields to her child’s impulses, dissolves boundaries, and turns every “no” into an easy “yes.” Although warm and present on the surface, yet she does not provide the firm structure children need to internalize self-discipline and realistic limits.

This archetype is therefore not enlightened compassion but a rajasic distortion of true acceptance. Her agreeableness arises less from wisdom and more from insecurity, guilt, or conflict-avoidance. In over-permitting, the Anujātrī mothering type leaves the child unanchored—adrift between craving and confusion rather than maturing within a clear, loving framework.

Meet Svarthi, the Outcome of Permissive Parenting 

In essence, the adult formed through overindulgent or boundaryless parenting is called Svarthī, “one who is self-serving”—an adult shaped by unchecked gratification, often driven by entitlement, blind to their impact on others, and convinced that their desires define reality.

• Poor boundaries. They often struggle to say no or to protect their time, space, and energy, since boundaries were not consistently modeled or enforced in childhood.
• Emotional volatility. Without structure or containment, they may feel emotions intensely and express them impulsively, becoming easily overwhelmed or reactive.
• Difficulty with self-discipline. They may avoid routine, resist constraints, or procrastinate—having internalized a pattern of indulgence rather than responsibility.

• Dependency or entitlement
  They may expect others to meet their needs or accommodate them, or they may rely heavily on external structure due to a lack of internalized order.
• Fear of rejection when asserting themselves
  Without healthy conflict modeling, they may avoid expressing disagreement or setting limits, fearing they will be disliked or abandoned.
• Low frustration tolerance
  They often struggle to tolerate discomfort, challenge, or delayed gratification, leading to impulsivity or giving up too easily.

VEDIC PSYCHOLOGY PERSPECTIVE

From a Vedic Psychology perspective, permissive parenting gives rise to rajasic and tamasic samskaras—impressions of emotional confusion, craving, and ungrounded freedom. These shape an ahankara that swings between neediness and avoidance. Such individuals tend to pursue their desires with little regard for how their actions affect others, often manipulating situations and exploiting people with a chilling indifference to the consequences. Beneath this behavior lies a fragile sense of self, propped up by an excessive need for external validation. Having been overindulged and made to feel special—rarely corrected or held accountable—they now seek to recreate that inflated sense of superiority in every relationship.