PINPOINT THE PARENTING STYLE

Authoritative

Consistent and Kind 

Authoritative parents embody the healthiest and most balanced style of parenting. They combine high warmth with strong, consistent structure—giving children the emotional support they crave and the boundaries they need to grow. They set clear limits with kindness and respect, listen attentively to their child’s feelings, and offer guidance without control. Independence is encouraged, and discipline is delivered through natural consequences paired with calm explanations.

Authoritarian

Controlling and Cold

Authoritarian parents are controlling and cold, offering high structure but little warmth. They enforce rules rigidly, with minimal room for dialogue, and often rely on punishment rather than guidance. Emotional needs are overlooked, and obedience is prioritized over understanding. Discipline is enforced through strict rules, fear or shame rather than mutual respect, discussions or emotional attunement.

Permissive

Loving and Lenient

Permissive parents are warm and affectionate, but offer little structure or discipline. Often trying to be a friend rather than a parent, they avoid setting clear limits and rarely follow through with consequences. Their leniency may feel loving, but it leaves children without the guidance and boundaries they need to feel secure. Rules, if present at all, are inconsistently applied and easily negotiated by the child.

Neglectful

Distant and Disinterested 

Neglectful parents are emotionally distant and largely unavailable. They offer neither warmth nor structure, often seeming distracted, overwhelmed, or entirely disengaged. These parents provide little guidance, attention, or support, and may fail to meet even the child’s basic emotional or physical needs. Their absence—whether physical, mental, or emotional—leaves the child feeling invisible and alone.

SVASTHA

Self-Knowing.

"Hi I'm Svastha, no need to be an imposta."

Adults raised by Authoritative Parents—those who were nurturing yet firm, emotionally attuned yet boundaried—tend to develop a strong, integrated sense of self. They are emotionally intelligent, and regulate their feelings without suppression or relying on others. With early models of empathy and accountability, they feel safe in their bodies, trust their inner voice, and form healthy, reciprocal relationships. Rather than seeking validation or control, they move through life with clarity, balance, and a grounded connection to their true nature—Svastha. This inner alignment helps them adapt without losing themselves and lead without dominating, embodying quiet confidence rooted in self-awareness. 

 SVARTHI 

Self-Serving.

"Hi I'm Svarthi, and it's always all about ME!"

Adults raised by Permissive Parents—those who were indulgent, inconsistent with limits, or overly accommodating—often grow into adults who are charming, emotionally expressive, yet hungry for attention. While they may appear confident or open-hearted, they frequently struggle with empathy, emotional regulation, and respecting the needs or boundaries of others. Because their parents acted more like friends than guides—and rarely gave feedback about inappropriate behavior—they developed an inflated sense of self, often believing they were better than others. With little accountability or practice in delaying gratification, they may expect special treatment and resist constructive feedback.

TOSHAKA

Self-Sacrificing.

"Hi I'm Toshaka, the bleeding heart chakra."

Adults raised by Authoritarian Parents—those who were overly controlling, rigid, or punitive—often grow into people-pleasers with codependent tendencies, driven by a fear of conflict and a desperate need for approval. Their sense of self becomes entangled with others’ expectations, making it difficult to assert their own needs, express authentic emotions, or trust their worth apart from external validation. In relationships, they may chronically overextend themselves, suppress their truth to avoid disapproval, and confuse being needed with being loved. Their greatest fear isn’t in being alone—it is in disappointing another by daring to honor their own needs.

 SHUNYA

Self-Doubting.

"Hi I'm Shunya, you gonna love me real soon, ya?"

Adults raised by Neglectful Parents—those who were emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, or entirely absent—often carry deep, invisible wounds. These wounds leave them feeling empty, lonely, unseen, and fundamentally unworthy of love. Because their emotional needs were unmet, they may develop an intense fear of rejection or abandonment, clinging to others while simultaneously fearing intimacy. Their sense of self is often unstable—shifting to match whoever they are with, like a chameleon adapting to survive. They may alternate between idealizing and devaluing relationships, desperate for connection yet terrified of being rejected or abandoned.