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Self-Reliant.
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SvÄrthÄ« types perfect the art of needing no oneābuilding fortress walls around their hearts so impenetrable that even they forget what lies inside. But this fierce independence masks a devastating truth: their compulsive self-sufficiency stems from terror of depending on anyone, leaving them profoundly isolated yet desperately convincing themselves this emptiness is freedom, that their loneliness is strength, and that needing others is a weakness they've brilliantly overcome.
SANSKRIT MEANING
SvarthÄ« (ą¤øą„ą¤µą¤¾ą¤°ą„ą¤„ą„) ā composed of "sva" (ą¤øą„ą¤µ) meaning "self" and "artha" (ą¤ ą¤°ą„ą¤„) meaning "purpose, meaning, or interest," with the suffix "-Ä«" denoting one who possesses or is characterized by this quality. While commonly translated as "selfish," the deeper etymology reveals someone who seeks meaning only within themselves, unable to trust that purpose or fulfillment could come through connection with others. A SvÄrthÄ« is one who has made self-reliance their fortress, where independence becomes both their protection and their prison ā forever guarding against the vulnerability that true emotional intimacy requires.
AvoidantĀ Sambandha Style
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SvÄrthÄ«'s exhibit the core avoidant traits: compulsive self-reliance, emotional distancing, devaluation of intimacy, and the classic "I don't need anyone" stance where they maintain independence at all costs. They struggle with vulnerability, interdependence, and emotional expressionāconsistently choosing autonomy over connection, unable to form deep attachments because they've learned to see dependence as weakness, confirming their core belief: "I can only rely on myself."
MEET SVÄRTHÄŖ
Three Common Beliefs of SvÄrthÄ«
- "I can only rely on myself" Others will inevitably let me down, so depending on anyone is setting myself up for disappointment and pain.
- "Being vulnerable makes me weak" Showing emotions or needs will be used against me - it's safer to appear strong and self-sufficient at all times.
- "Intimacy means being trapped" Getting too close means losing my freedom and being engulfed by others' needs and expectations.
These are some of the typical patterns seen in SvÄrthÄ« archetype - trapped between fear of engulfment and deep need for connection, forever caught in the cycle of emotional distancing and unmet longing for genuine intimacy.
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